The markets have barely finished their Christmas offers and now their windows are filled with St. Valentine’s ones. In Ireland, St. Valentine’s Day is as special as any other holiday, which means that the couples will have several ways to enjoy this date, by travelling around the beautiful landscapes, going out for dinner, staying overnight in a very luxurious hotel, and so on. However, I wonder if St. Valentine’s holiday has been underestimated as a really good way of getting closer to their respective partners.
Love and Science
An study ran by the psychologist Arthur Aron, which became known worldwide after an article was published in the New York Times, shows that the best way to get closer to people (strangers) is by exploring intimacy. Aron (and others) formulated 36 questions that go from basic subjects to very deep, personal questions.
After two strangers have asked each other all questions they should look in each other eyes for 2 to 4 minutes and see how it goes. The experiment is very provocative as it theorized that these 36 questions would cause strangers to fall in love. It really gets people thinking if there is any real possibility of love blossoming. If it works it would be revolutionary, wouldn’t it be?
The interesting fact is that when Mandy Len Catron and her friend tried the study, it worked. Both fell in love. It goes without saying that the story went viral and helped the study to become known everywhere. She wrote her love story and published it with the following title: To fall in love with anyone, do this. It worked for her and maybe for many others. After a few months, she gave a talk on TED that you can check out below.
Let’s dive into our Intimacy?
Back to St. Valentine’s Day, here is the question. If it is possible to fall in love with a stranger by asking him or her 36 questions, what would happen if one allows oneself to become as vulnerable as possible with your current partner? Would it be possible to fall in love again or fall even deeper in love by trying this experiment?
So, that is the main suggestion we have for St. Valentine’s Day in Dublin.
Since October 2018, an exhibition called Intimacy has been held at the Science Gallery. This exhibition presents several types of activities for all ages, which cultivate a deep understanding your own intimacy as well as with your friends and partner.
There you can take time to go through the 36 questions with your partner or even a current Tinder date or that friend who you are very close to, but you never imagined you guys together (Why not?). It is worth trying.
Of course, you can enjoy all the other offers for St. Valentine’s Day, but we bet it would worth your while get to know yourself and your lover better!
There are still loads of other experiments you can try. See the list below and have great fun!
Hello Machines are situated across the globe in ever-changing locations and time zones. Pick up the receiver to call other Hello Machines, and have a spontaneous conversation with a stranger. To date, over 20,000 calls have been made on Hello Machines. Who is going to be on the other end of the line for your call?
Through this installation, visitors are encouraged to draw with both loved ones and strangers, cultivating interconnection and intimacy, and they will experience guiding — and being guided by — the movement of their partner.
The Companion Cat looks feels and sounds like a real cat, but they don’t require any special care or feeding. Developed as a health and wellness product for aging adults, the cats respond to petting, hugging and motion much like real ones.
How large is your personal space?
Humans are constantly utilising their inner distance-setting mechanisms in the social world, judging how close we want to get based on how close our relationship is. But, do we all use the same scale when measuring personal space? Or are we sometimes intruding into another’s personal zone without being aware of it? This experiment allows you to find your own personal space limits, and see how they relate to the limits of others.